What your body parts say about your personality

25 04 2014

We’re told size doesn’t matter… but scientists keep finding new ways to suggest it actually does. A controversial study claims women with wider hips have more sexual partners and more one-night stands. Leeds Uni boffins say the broad-of-beam are more suited to childbirth and thereforekeener to romp.


Many will scoff – women with big hips presumably– there’s plenty of science to say physical attributes DO offer clues to our personalities. From height and hair to boobs and bums, our bodies are sending out messages…



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A quick guide to good health

9 07 2013

When it comes to your physical and mental wellbeing there are no short cuts, but you can prevent myriad infections and conditions by simply keeping yourself clean and adhering to a strict but workable personal hygiene regimen.

Smelly feet, bad breath, strong pungent smell of sweat upon raising your arms can be quite annoying and irritating. The good news is that these conditions can actually have a quick fix! Yes 24 hour quick fix. Remedy? Good body hygiene. Personal health is the overall health of the body and the mind. Bodies need to be cleaned and well groomed in addition to a healthy diet, exercise and enough sleep in order to perform well. Some fundamental elementary school teachings include body hygiene. It is therefore understood by many to be common knowledge, though it may not be so. Sometimes when we neglect our personal hygiene we may cause problems that we may not even be aware of, for example, pungent body odour or bad breath to the point of nauseating those around you.

Some good grooming routines include:

Hair: Hair should be washed at least once a week with soap and mild shampoo. Those with Ghanaian lines and braids, one should try to wash it at least once in two weeks so as not to ruin the hairstyle. The scalp must also be oiled for women at least an hour before hair wash. This will prevent dandruff which can also be quite embarrassing. Dandruff is flaking of dry skin from the scalp. It is usually white in color and very prominent.

Skin: Despite the many skin beauty products on the market, what remains fundamental is soap and water. One should have a bath at least once or twice a day. One should wash off soap properly and dry with a clean towel. (Towels should be cleaned at least twice a week). If one has had some sport activity they should take a bath after the activity. The genitals and anus also need to be cleaned or will cause irritation in unwanted areas. Cotton underwear is best, as the natural absorptive capacity of cotton prevents sweat build up. Ladies should wipe from front to back after using the toilet in order to avoid urinary tract infections (UTI’s), bacterial vaginal infection and other infections caused by faecal contamination. Some cultures advocate a wash with water, which could have more health benefits.

Teeth: One should endeavor to brush teeth at least twice a day. If one is eating artificial sugars often, they should ensure that they brush their teeth before going to bed. The tongue and inner surface must also be brushed and at least for sixty seconds. Bristles of the brush should be resilient. A neem twig can also be used as an alternative; it works by mechanical scrubbing of the teeth.

Hands: The Dettol advert with the four critical times of hand washing couldn’t have said it better: before eating, after eating, after visiting the toilet and after changing the baby’s nappies and in addition to other activities. Hands must be washed thoroughly with soap and water and rinsed well and attention paid to areas between fingers, nails and back of hand. The hands should thereafter be dried with a clean towel and the towel washed every day. When handling food hands should be clean and one should avoid scratching or touching the ears, nose, mouth and any other body orifices.

Nails: The key word here is “short”. Short nails are simpler to maintain and less trouble. If the nails are kept long, they should be clipped along their shape (but not deeply at the sides) so that they do not pinch the skin. For ladies, the nails shouldn’t be painted continuously as they will end up with split look. Brittle nails are a sign of deficiency or disease condition. Once in a while nails can be given a treat and soaked in warm water for ten minutes, oiled and massaged.

Feet: should be scrubbed with sponge or pumice stone that isn’t very abrasive. In between the toes should be dried after a bath and the toenails should be well clipped. Cotton socks are deemed ideal, as they are properly absorbent. Leather shoes allow the foot to “breath”, thereby avoiding build up of moisture. If possible one should change their pair of shoes and not wear them every day. Allowing daily “airing” of the feet, avoiding sweat build up and keeping clean will prevent athlete’s foot (fungal infection). An offending smell from the feet is likely to suggest athlete’s foot (or dirty socks).

Menstrual hygiene: washing must be done and cleanliness is very important during this period. Pads or tampons depending on the preference of the woman must be changed at least once in six hours to prevent odour, infection or septic shock in case of tampons — a condition normally marked with fever, vomiting and diarrhea. Pads can cause soreness in the thighs. Dusting powders are not recommended in the genital areas.

Sexual Health: A healthy sex life is known to promote good health benefits such as ensuring better sleep, reducing tension headaches, improving immunity, reduces stress, promotes longevity, increases blood circulation, increases the levels of estrogen in women which protects them against heart disease and testosterone in men. Good sexual hygiene involves staying faithful to one partner or otherwise using condoms in order to avoid contracting sexually transmitted diseases such as genital herpes, gonorrhea, HIV and many others.

Food: One should ensure to eat a balanced diet that includes carbohydrates, vitamins, proteins, adequate fruits and vegetables and plenty of water that helps to flush out toxins from the body and also prevent UTI’s. A good diet prevents malnutrition and prevents diseases. Excessive consumption of alcohol predisposes one to diseases such as liver cirrhosis in in the long term. It is also important for one to drink clean water. One should ensure that water is boiled or treated in order to avoid water borne diseases such as cholera or dysentery. If not certain of the source, one should endeavor to get a clean proven source of water for consumption.

Exercise: Physical exercise is also important when it comes to promoting good health. One should have a good work out at least three times a week averaging at least 30- 45 minutes. There should be a degree of exertion, which one should increase with time. Walking, jogging, swimming is all good activities to engage in order to promote good circulation of blood in the body and prevent cardiovascular diseases.

Sleeping: This is the best ways to boost your mental health. Daily sleep should be enough at about six to nine hours. Children should definitely sleep for nine to 12 hours including their mid-day naps. Lack of enough sleep leads to irritability, lack of concentration, memory loss, and lack of vibrancy.

Bad habits: In also promoting good personal health one should avoid habits such as cigarette smoking and substance abuse. These lead to a myriad of health problems such as addiction, dependency and abuse, as well as lowered immunity with various infections and cancers.

Mental Health: Positive mental health also involves having positive energy, positive thoughts and having good coping mechanisms and emotional management in order to avoid depression and stress. Stress and pressure can cause weight loss, lack of appetite or over-eating. Positive mental health should thus be nurtured just as much as other forms of health. Good personal hygiene gets you looking good and feeling good and confident. It is just that simple.

This article has been written by Dr Torooti Mwirigi.

What men think about during sex

3 06 2013


Here are some of the things men think about during sex … according to the women’s magazine “Maire Claire”. I know what you’re thinking:this is a magazine for women, so this list is going to be LAME. And for the most part … you’re right. But for what it’s worth, this list was written by a GUY, so some of it actually makes sense. Here you go:

How did I get here
For single guys, this is the moment you realize you’re finally about to get laid. Part of you can’t quite believe it, and part of you is desperately trying to remember for next time: “What did I do in order to get this person to want to have sex with me?”

I’m out of shape
At the moment of truth, the fact that most of us guys are lazy and out-of-shape can hit home pretty hard. Inevitably, you’re wishing you stuck to your New Year’s Resolution about doing more crunches.

Don’t finish!
Unless you’re an expert in tantric sex, there’s going to be a difference between how long YOU want to go, and how long SHE does. Here’s a hint: she wants you to go longer. Most guys are caught between enjoying themselves and thinking, “Just hold on…”


Someone else
This one goes both ways. Sometimes we HAVE to think of someone else…someone repulsive …because we don’t WANT to finish. And sometimes we think about someone else because it turns us on. Sorry, it’s true. But women are guilty of this too.

What she likes
Guys take mental notes about what is and isn’t working. That is, if they’re SMART. That way, if there’s a next time,they know what’s going to get a good reaction, and they know what NOT to do.

The immediate surroundings
Guys can totally lose focus when they’re getting-it-on, check out their surroundings, and STILL get
off. It’s unfair, we know. It means we might glance at the TV, or at whatever photos you have propped up too close to the bed.

Birth control
No matter how into the moment you are, there’s still that question: “Are we being safe enough?” Hopefully, you answered this question BEFORE you got naked.

Do I really like this person?
Yes, guys ask themselves this question too. They might even think: Does this person like ME? The only
difference is, the answer to either question won’t ruin the moment one way or the other.


Am I doing this right?
A lot of guys have lousy rhythm, both on and off the dance floor. And it’s never more noticeable than when you get in a bad groove while you’re horizontal.

Will she?
Sure, men are selfish in bed. And it’s easier for us to “finish.” But we’re still always thinking about the BIG question during sex: Will SHE finish? Since we all know that question is harder to answer, it can add a lot of pressure.

Pity sex – The pros and cons

8 05 2013

You probably already know what pity sex is.
But just in case you don’t, it’s when one person has sex with another person just because they feel sorry for them. Anyway, pity sex can be a beautiful thing. But is it always a good idea? Before you have pity sex with some poor sucker, here are some pros and cons to consider, according to a so-called “sexpert”
from Fox News.

1. It’s uncomplicated, and you both know what it’s about.
2. It tends to fall into your lap without a lot of work or having to play games.
3. There are no strings attached, and it could eventually lead to a friends-with-benefits
4. By having pity sex, you don’t have to reject someone who’s already unstable. (???)
5. If done correctly…whatever that means…pity sex really can lift a person’s


1. Do you really want to risk pregnancy and STD infection for some jerk you’re not even that into?
2. You can make the case that ALL pity sex takes advantage of a person who’s already vulnerable, especially if they’ve been drinking.
3. You run the risk of setting yourself up as the emergency go-to whenever there’s a crisis.
4. You’ve heard this one before: Sex can ruin a friendship.
5. There’s always the chance that one person will fall for the other. If that happens, well, things are only going to get uglier.

When she wants it more than him

4 04 2013


Desire — that delightful urge to do things that result in children — feels different to every one of us. For some it’s exhilarating. For others warm and relaxed. For some it’s the most important thing in the world, while others can take it or leave it.

And it’s not always the man who has the greater interest, despite anything you might have read in the magazines. Because libido varies hugely in both men and women. And throughout our lives.

Like a woman’s is generally low in her teens, gradually rising to a peak in her late 30s or early 40s. While his is at its highest in his late teens, and falls very slowly for the rest of his life. So hers can often be greater than his in her thirties and forties.

Which means you often hear young wives complaining that their men want way too much sex. While later on the roles often get reversed, so that by the time she’s forty she’s wanting more than him – and also likely to be at her most assertive and demanding!

Fortunately, that’s usually not a problem, especially as by then he’s probably also a far better lover. And so for many couples, it’s around then that sex is at it’s best. Especially as it’s probably no longer an end in itself, but part of other pleasures such as good food and conversation.


But sometimes she still complains that he just doesn’t give her enough!

And that’s far more common than you might imagine! Because in a significant number of couples it’s the woman who’s ahead.

So what should you do, if you discover that your wife’s leaving you behind?

Well, first of all, fix any problems you might be having with stress, medication or work. And then if things don’t return to normal, ask yourself a few questions.

Like has your libido always been fairly low, all your life? If it has, then think about whether you grew up in a family or community where sex was something to be ashamed of. Do you feel guilty at feeling pleasure? Then you’re probably repressing yourself sexually.

Or perhaps you’re subconsciously enjoying the power involved in being the withholder. Either way, your libido will increase if you change your attitudes toward sex. And if that seems hard, see a counsellor.

It’s also worth experimenting with your partner to find out exactly what pushes your buttons. And to be willing to meet her half way. Because desire isn’t only about sex itself, but often includes all the emotions that underpin it, such as security, reassurance, affection and support.

So your partner might be wanting something you’re more than willing to give, if you were to define intimacy slightly differently.

And that’s worth doing, because intimacy is one of life’s greatest pleasures, and it would be a shame to deny it to yourself and your partner. So just do it — before someone else does. Because neglected women stray.

International students barred from sex trade

2 04 2013


International students in New Zealand, where prostitution is legal, have been told they are to be barred from working in the sex trade. A government immigration website, http://www.nzstudywork.com, said Monday overseas students have the same workplace rights as all New Zealanders, but lists jobs they cannot do. Foreign students “can’t provide commercial sexual services. In other words, they can’t work as a prostitute, act as an operator of a New Zealand prostitution business or invest in a prostitution business”, the website said.


Immigration New Zealand general manager Stephen Dunstan said New Zealand legislation did not preclude students from working as massage therapists. Prostitution was decriminalised in 2003. There are about 70,000 overseas students in New Zealand, many of whom take part-time jobs to help meet their expenses. The New Zealand Herald reported Monday that Chinese make up a third of the 1,700 sex workers in Auckland, but it was not known how many were on a student visa.

G-Spot-The female switch

27 03 2013

g spot

Location of the g-spot
The G-spot lies directly behind the pubic bone within the front wall of the vagina. It is usually located about half way between the back of the pubic bone and the front of the cervix, along the course of the urethra and near the neck of the bladder, where it connects with the urethra. The size and exact location vary. Imagine a small clock inside the vagina with 12 o’clock pointed towards the navel. The majority of women will have the G-spot located between 11 and 1 o’clock a few inches inside the vagina.

Unlike the clitoris, which protrudes from the surrounding tissue, it lies deep within the vaginal wall, and a firm pressure is often needed to contact the G spot in its unstimulated state. Usually it is a lima- bean sized, spongy area which responds to stimulation by hardening and swelling as blood rushes to it.

stimulation of the g-spot
Lie back with your knees pressed up to your chest. In this position, your vaginal depth will shorten and even small fingers should be able to reach the G-spot. With a partner, lie on your side with one leg drawn up to your chest as your partner enters you from the rear. He should be able to hit the spot.
The G-spot responds to pressure rather than to touch. Gently stroking is not likely to get any results. It’s more like massaging a pea under a mattress – one has to compress the flesh to find it.

Insert fingers and bend them gently up, around and behind the pubic bone. Beyond the rather rough-surfaced tissue immediately behind her pubic bone, your fingertips will encounter a very soft, smooth area. Go very slowly and let her tell you what she feels as you explore the smooth area, which will feel to you like the inside of a very slippery mitten. When you straighten your fingers and reach further inside, you’ll encounter a hard, rubbery structure that feels like an erect nipple pointing south. This is her cervix. The G-spot is somewhere just his side of the cervix, about an inch beyond the mitten, in the flesh immediately in front of the vagina.

Imagine you’re holding a tennis ball on those two of three inserted fingers. An area about the size of a grape in the center of the tennis ball is what you’re trying to reach. It can be anywhere along that two-or-three inch long area between the pubic bone and the cervix. Explore slowly, allowing for feedback from the woman – let her guide your fingers with her words if she can feel the stimulation. The G-spot responds to pressure rather than to touch. Gentle stroking is not likely to find it. It’s more like massaging a pea under a mattress – one has to compress the flesh to find it.

When you reach in from the front with the woman on her back, the heel of your hand is over her clitoris while your fingers hook around her pubic bone. Pull upwards, as if you’re trying to lift her off the bed. Do this with the same sort of rhythm you’d use fucking, and keep your fingers hooked, so they press deep into the tissue. Once you know where it is you can try using your penis on it, but for good G-spot orgasm, she may prefer your hand. In face-to-face intercourse, the penis may not stimulate the spot enough to do any good, although some positions, such as the one where the women draws her knees close to her chest, may increase the chances of a G-spot orgasm.

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