Never EVER Talk Bad Of Your Husband To Anyone…Learn!!!

4 02 2014

Never EVER Talk Bad Of Your Husband To Anyone…Learn!!!.


Brisk walking can be key to a healthy heart

2 07 2013

Scientists have shown that brisk walking can reduce your risk of high blood pressure, high cholesterol and diabetes just as much as running.

After looking at the health records of 33,000 runners and 15,000 walkers, researchers found that the same energy used for moderate intensity walking and vigorous intensity running resulted in similar reductions in risk for high blood pressure, high cholesterol and diabetes.

The research also showed the more often people walked briskly or went running, the greater the health benefits.

Doireann Maddock, Senior Cardiac Nurse at the British Heart Foundation (BHF), said: “These scientists have shown us that any brisk physical activity, not just those long, exhausting runs, can be great news for your heart health.

“We know the best type of activity for your heart is moderate intensity aerobic activity and that includes walking, as long as you feel warmer, breathe harder and your heart beats faster than usual.

“Whether it’s walking, jogging or running, staying active will help control your weight, reduce blood pressure and cholesterol and improve your mental health. In other words, you’ll look and feel great and reduce your risk of a heart attack and stroke, too.”

How to cultivate gratitude in a greedy world

17 06 2013

“To speak gratitude is courteous and pleasant, to enact gratitude is generous and noble, but to live gratitude is to touch Heaven.” -Johannes A. Gaertner


Most spiritual and psychological traditions speak of the importance of cultivating a sense of gratitude in life, if one is to evolve into higher realms of human existence and consistently experience joy, aliveness and meaning in one’s life. This is especially true here in the Western world, where we are bombarded with the lure and illusory promise of material things from the moment we are born. Our entire consumer-oriented culture is based on convincing people that the real solution to their unhappiness and dissatisfaction in life is that they need to buy something they do not yet have (and often really do not need), and then making them feel even worse if they can’t or won’t buy it. All of our major indices of prosperity and success are based on the idea that consumption is good, and more consumption is better. Consequently, even if we do buy the latest thing, our satisfaction is short-lived and fades as soon as the next new gizmo comes out. As a result, people feel badly if their house “only” has 2000 square feet and their car has not grown to tank-size proportions like the ones they see in their neighbor’s driveway and their boat is only twenty feet long.


But what inner qualities does this entire industry of induced consumption breed in us? Unfortunately, it has created a nation of greedy, envious, self-serving, worried, competitive people who tend to put more attention on what they don’t have then what they have, creating more craving, more desire, more emptiness, and more longing. Compare this attitude with that of the philosopher Epictetus, who said, “He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has.”

And this attitude of dissatisfaction exists in a country which has more material prosperity than any country in history. Just how fortunate are we in the United States? According to recent estimates by the United Nations, worldwide, about 24,000 people die every day from hunger or hunger-related causes; some 800 million people in the world suffer from hunger and malnutrition; and 1.6 billion people still live in absolute poverty. If one includes those living in “relative poverty”, the poor population across the globe amounts to 3.3 billion, more than half of the entire world. In other words, over 50% of the population on Earth would be thrilled beyond belief to live at the standard of most Americans. And yet for so many of us, it’s still not enough.

Which is where gratitude comes in. We need a major attitude shift if we are to create healthier relationships, more inner serenity, fulfillment and meaningful lives. Cicero once wrote, “Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others.” Gratitude paves the way for a host of other very positive qualities to emerge.

How we can cultivate more of this wonderful quality within ourselves and others? We can begin by starting a Gratitude Journal, writing down all things, both great and small, that we are grateful for in our life. Nothing is too small or insignificant to be included, because the scale of gratitude knows no bounds. You can be as grateful for the flower that bloomed today as for the home you live in, the health of your family, and the look in your dog’s eye when you come home. Review your list daily.

In terms of our relationships, we tend to take our spouses, lovers, significant others and friends for granted. There is no greater gift than to tell a loved one how much you appreciate their presence in your life. Countless times while working with couples we have seen resentment and anger melt away in the presence of sincere gratitude and appreciation. Call a friend or relative, or write a letter to let someone know what they mean to you, even if they are healthy and not in crisis. It’s also a wonderful practice to have an entire family express gratitude together on a regular basis; the earlier children start the greater their capacity for gratitude becomes.


The consistent practice of expressing gratitude also reminds us that we do not live alone; we survive only because we are constantly receiving goods from people, from nature, and from spirit. Gratitude helps us to be more aware of the many things that we receive from other people, and realize that our lives depend on the perpetual giving of others, and we feel a deeper responsibility to give more of ourselves. Albert Einstein said, “A hundred times every day I remind myself that my inner and outer life depends on the labors of other men, living and dead, and that I must exert myself in order to give in the measure as I have received and am still receiving”.

In closing, here’s a wonderful quote by Melody Beattie:

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more.
It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity.
It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.
Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today,
and creates a vision for tomorrow.”


What men think about during sex

3 06 2013


Here are some of the things men think about during sex … according to the women’s magazine “Maire Claire”. I know what you’re thinking:this is a magazine for women, so this list is going to be LAME. And for the most part … you’re right. But for what it’s worth, this list was written by a GUY, so some of it actually makes sense. Here you go:

How did I get here
For single guys, this is the moment you realize you’re finally about to get laid. Part of you can’t quite believe it, and part of you is desperately trying to remember for next time: “What did I do in order to get this person to want to have sex with me?”

I’m out of shape
At the moment of truth, the fact that most of us guys are lazy and out-of-shape can hit home pretty hard. Inevitably, you’re wishing you stuck to your New Year’s Resolution about doing more crunches.

Don’t finish!
Unless you’re an expert in tantric sex, there’s going to be a difference between how long YOU want to go, and how long SHE does. Here’s a hint: she wants you to go longer. Most guys are caught between enjoying themselves and thinking, “Just hold on…”


Someone else
This one goes both ways. Sometimes we HAVE to think of someone else…someone repulsive …because we don’t WANT to finish. And sometimes we think about someone else because it turns us on. Sorry, it’s true. But women are guilty of this too.

What she likes
Guys take mental notes about what is and isn’t working. That is, if they’re SMART. That way, if there’s a next time,they know what’s going to get a good reaction, and they know what NOT to do.

The immediate surroundings
Guys can totally lose focus when they’re getting-it-on, check out their surroundings, and STILL get
off. It’s unfair, we know. It means we might glance at the TV, or at whatever photos you have propped up too close to the bed.

Birth control
No matter how into the moment you are, there’s still that question: “Are we being safe enough?” Hopefully, you answered this question BEFORE you got naked.

Do I really like this person?
Yes, guys ask themselves this question too. They might even think: Does this person like ME? The only
difference is, the answer to either question won’t ruin the moment one way or the other.


Am I doing this right?
A lot of guys have lousy rhythm, both on and off the dance floor. And it’s never more noticeable than when you get in a bad groove while you’re horizontal.

Will she?
Sure, men are selfish in bed. And it’s easier for us to “finish.” But we’re still always thinking about the BIG question during sex: Will SHE finish? Since we all know that question is harder to answer, it can add a lot of pressure.

French fashion firm develops suit that blocks electromagnetic waves

27 05 2013


French fashion label Smuggler on Thursday said it had produced a suit that can block electromagnetic waves produced by mobile phones.

“This is the first use of technological materials in every day men’s clothing that doesn’t cause discomfort,” said Benjamin Anin of the company’s research and development department.

“Until now this type of very specific material was more rudimentary and only used by certain professionals who were particularly exposed,” he added.

The material took three years to develop in collaboration with the XLIM Institute in Limoges in southwestern France which does research on electromagnetism.

The technique involves interweaving fabric with non-allergenic nickel, stainless steel, aluminium and faux gold in jacket pockets.

Anin said the material could block 90 percent of electromagnetic waves and was timely given the move to 4G and widespread use of wireless and smartphones.

The first suits using the fabric will form part of the label’s spring-summer 2013 collection.

Revenge won’t make you feel better

15 05 2013

“He made me do it!” “It was her fault!”


That is a common line of defence for many people caught in the act of cheating. It points to the question of individual motivation for behaviour, a question that social scientists have long grappled with. There are many questions to be asked in this regard, but the two I will attempt to answer today are: one, what makes people act the way they do? And two, can someone else be blamed for that behaviour? Here are my thoughts.

Let me begin with the academic foundations on the issue of motivation, based particularly on the fields of psychology, sociology, and philosophy. Motivation is at the heart of psychology and sociology, the former dealing with internal motivation and the latter, external motivations for behaviour. So when the question, “Why did he/she do it?” is asked, psychology will zero in on internal motivations such as anger, fear, and lust. Sociology, on the other hand, will look for anything in one’s environment, such as culture, relationships, and economy.

From a purely academic sense therefore, one can argue that indeed, it can be justifiable to point a finger at someone and say “he/she made me do it”. And trust me, there are many people whose excuse for cheating on their spouse is paying them back for either cheating or a myriad other things they have done or failed to do in the past.

This is the excuse that Adam and Eve gave, and is what we choose to give many times when caught with our hands in the honey jar.

But life is not experienced on an academic level, but rather on the reality level — this is where philosophy comes in. Philosophy deals with moral issues and asks the question; what do you believe in? What is good or bad, right or wrong, acceptable or unacceptable in various situations? Therefore when you say, “I was angry (mental) because he/she cheated on me (social), philosophy asks; “Do you believe what you did was right, good, or acceptable?”

Therefore, psychology and sociology provides us with raw data about individuals and their circumstances, while philosophy helps us to understand how they use that data to make decisions. Where am I going with all this?

First, the temptation to cheat is a common response when one is cheated on. May I add that you do not need to feel guilty about that feeling; it is a legitimate expression of the pain that you may be experiencing. However, your final decision cannot be blamed on another person or circumstances. As we have seen, our feelings and the circumstances should never drive us to make decisions. Furthermore, cheating cannot be a reflex action, such as punching someone in anger.

You always have the option to choose to do things differently.

Second, and very important, is the fact that the consequences of an act of revenge are personal. The person who begins it will fight their own ghosts, those who act in response will fight their own ghosts too and sometimes those are more vicious. The “sins” of another person will never help you to overcome your guilt.

Third, the stakes are very high and even if you have enough reasons to hit back, your character is at risk. If you agree with whoever said that character makes the person, you would as well agree with me that fighting against temptation should be a priority.

Is it a wise decision to follow someone into a pit of fire because they wronged you? Think about that.

World’s first sex school in Vienna

29 04 2013


Vienna, Austria is home to the World’s first international applied sex school, which claims to teach its students how to become better lovers.

The “hands on” syllabus costs students a cool £1,400 per term and involves students living in mixed sex dormitories, where, they are expected to practise their homework. Most people would love to go back to school if all schools gave homework of this nature.

Ylva-Maria Thompson, Swedish-born headmistress of the college says that their core education is not theoretical, but very practical.

“Sexual positions, caressing techniques, anatomical features. And we teach people hands on,” explains Thompson.

Would you like to enroll?


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